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Tangled webs

I want to take some time today to talk through a few sticky situations. Why? Because left untended, they become monsters and the tangled webs are too strong, even for ninjas then. I’m no ninja, so venting them openly is the best I can do.

I’ve been gunning HARD lately as many of you know. It’s meant long days, short nights, an ass-ton of coffee, and raw emotions. The combination can be lethal…but I’m holding the tiger by the tail…so far. I know that’s not how we maintain control, but at this point, any grasp is better than none at all. Right?

I’ve noticed that when I’m in this odd euphoria of sleep deprivation that things jump out at me that I might not otherwise notice. Rather than poke the bears, I thought I’d offer some friendly advice without naming names…with the best of intentions and a smile on my face while the caffeine has continued dominion.

Let’s start with the person on social media who posts every hour or so about the same thing…or an update on something that will obviously not be resolved for days…or what they are doing at any given moment. Let’s face it, over-sharers exist. Most of the time, I can ignore the behavior, or there is always the ‘unfollow’ to click if it gets to be too much, but let’s talk about some self-regulation on social media. I’d like to point out to those who feel compelled to share such finite changes in your day…there is a difference between quality and quantity in sharing too. If your audience can fathom when you are ‘on the throne,’ based on your lack of posting for those 4 minutes, you’re doing it wrong.

Next, let us take a lesson from Yoga about breathing…there are going to be things that come up that will fluster us to no end, and when that happens…let us stop, and take a good, deep, cleansing breath before we react. The cursing, screaming, spittle-dripping tirades that some have come to favor are so unattractive…live and virtual. Personally, I think one of the rapid killers of civilized society right now is the immediate gratification of responding before having to think. What ever happened to taking a few minutes, or overnight, to process information before spitting out the first, often worst, thoughts that come to mind? We are not showing ourselves very well.

Third up on my list of ‘OhMyGoddessWhatAreWeThinking?’ is the matter of If you ask for it…guess what? I recently suggested a new writer who wanted to publish, work with an editor I know. They write outside my comfort level of what I can edit and have ability to offer good feedback for…so I referred them to someone else. I learned that they got the edits back and have ‘poo-poo’d’ the comments as being too picky, and that it isn’t fitting with their writing style. Also, that a NYT Bestselling author most of us have heard of doesn’t do it that way. Here’s the thing…One, you are not said NYT Bestselling author where you can take license with the hard rules.  Two, grammar rules ARE picky. Three, YOU ASKED FOR AN EDITOR because you didn’t know what you were doing wrong or how to remedy it…guess what? They gave you comprehensive guidance on how to fix what wasn’t working. If you didn’t want to know…you shouldn’t have asked.

Four…and mercy let me slurp some coffee before I begin this one…IF you KNOW the answer, please don’t ask the question just to get attention. I’ve seen recently…seasoned authors, with a year or more under their belts, asking first book, newbie questions. Questions that I am seeing first book/newbie authors answering with ease and confidence. I am floored. That’s all I’ve got. Well…that’s not completely true, and it goes to a larger, pandemic problem that should be addressed…If you ask a question – BOTHER TO LEARN THE ANSWER. there are TONS in the Indie author community that are so helpful and will go out of their way to assist anyone…respect them enough to take in the answer and make it work, not just hear or read the words. You’ve taken their time, return the courtesy by at least trying to apply the response. If you require repeated exposure to the same information, get a notebook.

Four segued nicely into five which is ditch the excuses. LIFE HAPPENS…to all of us. We all get sick, have babies or fur babies who need us, want to take a day away from the keyboard to decompress, have parents, or play-dates, or appliance mishaps, or any other myriad things that happen…at the end…if you made a commitment – keep it. It’s that simple. your best is not the same as anyone else’s…and guess what? It’s all you’ve got to give. Don’t bungle it up with excuses about how you didn’t go as fast as someone else, or whatever…leave the excuses for the quitters. If you’re going for it – RUN!

Lastly, if you’ve just learned it, you are not qualified to teach it and CHARGE for the lesson. There is sharing and information swapping that happens all the time, but I’ve noticed a trend that makes me nervous…young authors who had a good book do well, who jump from that to the ‘teaching class about it for $50 an hour so you can do what they did.’ It reminds me a workshop I attended at RT several years ago about learning the Amazon algorithms to maximize exposure…which translated to sitting in a class waiting in pain to get to the subject, instead of how amazon was like the presenters dating life. Many of you know just how pricey RT is…so I paid for that. I can never recover those funds, not the hour and I learned NOTHING. Welll..I learned I’m not going to that presenters class again. Basically, there is a wide range of information out there and often it doesn’t have a price tag…so Buyer beware.

I’d like to say this is everything, now squarely expunged and I’m good to go…but we all know it isn’t. These are just some examples of the sticky things that are out there…the ones that are easy to get tripped up in and off-track. It’s too easy to lose our way, and get caught up in the crazy of others.

There used to be a meme on my desk that I haven’t rediscovered since moving the office that said: “Don’t let others pull you into their storm, pull them into your peace.” It’s good advice.

All of these things are detractors, and false roads that take us away from the golden path to productivity…so let us now make an agreement to lift each other up, and offer positive reinforcements as we each try to grow, and to put helpful things out in the paths of others, and not to ask for things that we don’t truly need as we try to be a bit better than we were yesterday.

It’s my goal…how about you?

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Time Is Flying By

Summer is flying by. I can’t believe it’s already August and the child will be starting school in less than a week. Where did the time go?

My next book signing is at Penned Con in St. Louis the weekend of September 29-30. This event is an awesome two day convention with two days of signings, great parties, two ballrooms filled with authors willing to talk the language of our people…BOOKS!

Meanwhile, I’ve been writing and pimping out my books on all the social media pages. Have you read them? Did you review them?

A Fae King searching for his lost Queen finds her in the least likely place…the human realm. He sets himself on a quest to not only reclaim his mate, but to restore her memory of who she once was. Should be easy enough for the King of Faerie, right?
Beyond the Veil of Whispered Dreams~The Veil Book 1
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The Veiled Path to Destiny~The Veil Book 2
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B072YT686B

Until next week…Happy Reading!

~Jolanthe~

Too many directions, not enough gray matter

OIY! Last week I knew I had forgotten something, but like Neville’s ‘rembril’…I couldn’t find what I’d forgotten…remembered it now though – it was my weekly post here. OOOPS.

So, what has me running it so many directions you ask? Wellll….here’s the list:

Starting last week, the preorder campaign went up for the Prowlers and Growlers Box set that I’m in…HOLYMOLY – you want this set. 22 all new stories from a mad conflagration of authors – many of them best sellers or award winners all on their own…and it’s 99 pennies for a limited time…four days into Pre Order, it’s already hit #1 in two outlets, and two countries.

grab your copy with the links here:

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Join the dark side with ***ALL NEW*** stories from some of your favorite NY Times, USA Today, and Award Winning, Bestselling authors.
Step into the shadows with witches, werewolves, shifters, vampires, and soul mates: the sizzling hot alphas you love.
Are you fated to find your fantasy lover in these seductive, steamy pages bursting with danger and desire? Claim your book boyfriend now!
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THEN, tomorrow…is the cover reveal and Pre Order open for my next book:

follow along on my Facebook author page to see it.

C.A.S.E. Revelations.

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Release Date – March 7, 2017

A simple mistake brings the world to its knees with no notice or time to prepare. Young and inexperienced, first term president Baron York will have a lot to answer for when it’s finally done. If, that is, there’s anyone left to answer to.
Lessons from The Great Depression make an encore performance at the Hamilton property as they try to stay alive…and sane. Where were you when the world went dark and everything stopped?

Folks who get my newsletter got to see the cover today, but have to wait for the preorder with everyone else. Not getting my newsletter?? We can fix that. On my website…towards the bottom of the homepage is “NEXT STEPS” The link to subscribe is there and you too can get the latest delivered to your mailbox.

After that is the Sultry & Sinful: Femmes of Paranormal Anthology that is also coming out in April. The marketing for that is going to be amping up soon as well. Keep watching.

The rest of 2017 is a blur. Signings start in March with Booking In Biloxi, put on by the Crazy Cajun Book Lovers for the third year. North Iowa Book Bash is in early April brought by the BFF Bookies…both events are amazing.

Writing wise there are several more titles to come in ’17 from me.
Keep an eye out for details on:

Ella’s cinder – Rags to Riches in Reverse
Book of Mysteries – The Custos series Book 3
an Untitled piece for the Halloween in Savannah anthology due in October
a piece I’m playing with called Gravedigger
and lastly an idea I’m toying with based on reader requests – a follow-up to Viva Zapata & the Magic 8-Ball WIP titled Zapatista Revolution

Soooooo…yeahp, just a few kettles bubbling up right now. Apologies for missing last week. Forgive me? Hope so. Til next time, read something great.
See you on the pages!
Sav

Hello November!

Where does the time go and how can we slow it down? I can’t believe it’s November already. I was just getting into the swing of summer and fall came through and swept it away. If truth be told, I think Mother Nature is having mood swings and has forgotten to take her meds (but you didn’t hear that from me.) The temps here have been swinging from low 50’s to high 70’s and nobody knows how to dress…ok, I don’t know how to dress for the hot and cold flashes of fall.

This November I’m participating in the #30DaysGettingToKnowMe online event. Follow me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/JolantheAleksander and Twitter: @Joli_Aleksander and learn some tidbits about me and other authors you never knew you wanted to know.

Until next week…Happy Reading!
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When to move on

We are always told we have to fight for what we want. That is true. There also comes a time, though, when we have to think about what we really want. We all know what our end goal is. That does not always mean that everything we thought would come with it will be there.

We have to fight for the things that really matter but sometimes we have to let go of the things aren’t necessary. We have to recognize when it is time to give up the fight and move on. That can be the most difficult thing to face. To admit that you have to give up something you put your time and energy in to. Something you pinned your hope on. That doesn’t mean it didn’t serve it’s purpose on your journey, it only means that it’s purpose is done. Now it is time for you to move on to your next phase.

I have always been a fighter. I have never been very good at giving up on a fight even when I have seen it was a time to give up. I could clearly see that I would lose but I would go down fighting. The older I get the more that I see there is no point in that. I can now see when it is time to move on to something new. When something has served it purpose in my life I can smile and be thankful for the good and part on good terms instead of burning a bridge that has no reason to be burned.

This is an important lesson to be learned in the book world. As you make connections and network you can always go back to people that you have met in the past. You may not have talked that person in years but as long as you did not burn that bridge you can still talk to them and have a nice conversation and talk books at the next event you run into them again. There is no tension and there is no problem with not getting to go to an event you want to go to because of a feud.

Words said in anger will haunt you. Fighting for the sake of fighting will only hurt you in the long run. Learning when to move on is what will make you the happiest. Not everyone will understand this, but it is not for everyone to understand. It is for you to be happy with your life.

~Miranda

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Back to work

Last week as I was preparing to leave for an event in Wisconsin my laptop arrived back on my doorstep. To say that I was excited would be an understatement. I was expecting it to be gone for a lot longer.

To be honest I was expecting them to send me a check with a letter saying that it could not be saved and I would have to replace it. To receive it back two days after they received it and to have everything exactly as I had left it was more than I believed possible.

I accepted it without question (I didn’t want to jinx this newly found luck) and now I am able to get back to work. I can work whatever hours I want on the trilogy and when edits come in I can work on them whenever I want too! My stress levels immediately dropped.

It feels good to be able to do what I love.

~Miranda

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Coffee, it plays an important role

I stared at the blinking cursor with a blank mind  while listening to the coffee pot waiting for it to be done. I had no idea what to write for my post this week. No idea were forthcoming. I was hoping inspiration would come with that first cup of coffee.

After that first cup inspiration did indeed hit. Coffee plays an integral role in what we do as writers. Without the caffeine it provides to our brains I’m not sure we could come up with half of what we do for our stories. We mainstream the substance into our systems to keep going when we are on a roll and the result is a draft. Then we continue to mainstream it and the next result is a second (or third, etc.) draft. Then edits, then formatting. Finally, we end up with a book.

Coffee is one of the main ingredients that we need to write. I had a hard time even getting started on writing even this blog post without it. It is hard to admit it, but I think it is time to put it out there. I’m not sure I would be where I am without coffee 😉

~Miranda

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Another great event

Yesterday three of us were at Writers on the River. It was a great event. Not only was it only 10 minutes from my house it was a great success. There was a steady stream of people and it was a great time.

We all had so much fun. It was the first year for this event so none of us knew what to expect. I was so happy to see that it went so well. I got to see some friends that I hadn’t seen in a while and meet some new ones. I also sold some books.

It is always nice to sell books at events but my favorite part of events is getting to talk to everyone. I love meeting new people and talking to the ones that I don’t get to see very often.  I love to walk around and see what the other author tables look like and see what they have worked so hard on.

I feel a connection with everyone at these events. We all have one thing in common a love of books. No matter what else we have in our lives we have this one thing we can talk about for hours. We may not enjoy the same genre but that doesn’t make a difference we can still talk about books and writing for hours upon end (to the dismay of our significant others in most cases) and that is something that you will be hard pressed to find outside of an event like this. Unless of course you are part of a book club or it is friends but those are different circumstances.

Before the signing starts I always walk through and look at everyone’s books and find a couple that I really want. If I sell well enough I always buy at least one of them. This time there was only one that I had to have. The foot traffic was heavy enough that I wasn’t able to run over and get it myself so I sent my Mom who was there as my assistant. She came back with the book that I wanted and the author had written ‘never stop chasing your dreams’ when she signed it. I have heard this phrase many times. I have even said this phrase many times. To see it written in a book by an author to another at an event hit home with me. It showed me that the author community is very supportive of each other and I am proud to a part of it.

~Miranda

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It’s here

Took tremendous patience, and I owe a huge debt of gratitude…but my personal website is up. Come check out My revolution and follow along.

 

Planning more fun

I am back from the very fun event in Atlanta. I had so much fun I almost hated to see it end. I was ready to see the hubby and kids though. I’m really glad I went.

I met some amazing people that were great to talk with while there. I didn’t get to spend much time with the other authors in my group. I had intended on getting to know them a little better on a personal level and not just online. It didn’t work out that way though.

I wandered and spoke to different groups in the hotel if I didn’t have anything scheduled at that time. I attended panels to ask questions and get some insight as well as sitting on panels. I learned just as much sitting on panels as I did attending them.

I believe the reason for going to these events is to meet new people and make connections. Selling books is a bonus but not the focus of these events. I try to get as much as I can out of these events. It is an opportunity to get the opinions of many other authors. I also get the opinion of readers and what they are looking for.

It doesn’t matter if you write the same genre or if the reader does not read your genre you can still connect and talk in general. A lot of the information can be used in any genre.

I met some authors that I have seen at other cons. I would have to say the thing that surprised me the most is on author that came to a panel I was on and was asking questions. I had considered this author as one that was much bigger than I am. She is a best selling author so I couldn’t see what she could learn from me. As she asked questions and interacted with the panel I realized that I shouldn’t put other authors above me. We are all the same. They may be best sellers and further along on their journey but they started at the beginning and were once exactly where I am today.

I have a few more events this year and I am really excited to enjoy them. If there is an event that you would like to see me at, send me a message and I will see if I can get there.

Until next time, make sure to enjoy the ride!

~Miranda

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