Writing Sex Scenes … fun and games?

This week has been pretty quiet. I’ve managed to get some writing in every evening and I’m pleased with the way the story is coming along. Then I hit the part I had been dreading. The sex scene. I’ve written several sex scenes already in the Kindred series, and hadn’t had any issues with any of them. I wrote one short story, which had a couple of scenes in it, but they weren’t near as steamy as my series. Another short story I wrote, ‘A Daemon’s Desire’, had no sex in it at all. So what was my issue with this upcoming scene? Why am I having issues with it? Had the short stories with little or no sex in them dampened my taste for titillation?

In the short time I’ve been writing, I’ve learned something about myself. I don’t have a problem with sex. I like it. And I don’t mind talking about sex, either. But when it comes to writing a sex scene, I’d rather write about a bloody battle between warring werewolves and shapeshifters. It’s not near as draining.

Writing a sex scene is:

  1. Tricky. You have to make sure the people involved can actually move their body parts in the described way.
  2. Emotional. I’m writing romance here, LOTS of emotion. I want heartfelt feelings, but nothing too sappy. It’s a balancing act.
  3. Challenging. Again, I’m trying to write romantic sex scenes. I don’t want to use words that to my mind are lewd and crude. So I need other words that mean the same thing, but don’t sound… nasty. Yeah, it’s a challenge.

I knew one of my problems, and that was the character I was writing about. She is very loosely based on my own daughter. Face it, you don’t want to think about your own kid having sex, much less writing a detailed scene of them doing the big nasty.

My plans for the Kindred series were mapped out from the beginning. Book 1 was Quinn and Torie’s story. Each book thereafter would deal with two warriors and their mates. One couple would be the main story with the title and cover bearing their tale. The other couple would be secondary. Alexis’ story was always meant to be the secondary one, which it is. But there is still the claiming and if one of the couple is human, the conversion … two sex scenes. I put it off as long as I could. Now the time has come and I’m still staring at blank pages or half written ones. For days now, I’ve highlighted in yellow ‘To Be Continued’ and focused on other scenes. Unfortunately, if I want to finish the book, I need to finish these scenes so the characters can get on with their lives. *sigh* I have never been one to procrastinate … until now. Even writing this blog. My manuscript is up on my screen peeking at me behind the blog. It waits for me. It taunts me. I’m going to have to deal with it. I guess that time is now.

Till next week,

~ Madison

Romantic portrait of a kissing couple


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